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Thanks for your email. However, I am not wasting my time. :) You see, the word of God says that divorce is SIN. I made a vow to love Kenisha "until death do us part". This vow was made to Kenisha & God and made in the presents of 400 hundred witnesses. So, even if Kenisha never comes back, I am not wasting my time. I am being faithful to my God and the vows that I made. God himself says the "He hates divorce" and Jesus said, "What God has joined together, let not man separate." (Mark 10:9) The Bible is full of scriptures that show Gods heart and will for marriage, and divorce is not one of them...ever! :) In fact, the more I study the Bible, the more I come to see that there is NO TRUE justification for divorce in God's eyes! God designed marriage to be a picture of Christ and the church, so divorce for ANY REASON is distorting people's view of Christ! No, I am not condemning those who have divorced or had been divorced. It is not the unpardonable sin. But should we sin that grace may abound? (Rom 6:1) Absolutely not! So you see, I could ONLY be wasting my time if God was not in favor of what I am doing. I will put myself in the arms of God and let HIM pick me up, and I will move with God and wait on His timing, for the restoration of my marriage. But I will NEVER pick myself up in my own strength and I will NEVER EVER move on as far as giving up on my marriage to Kenisha. And if she never comes back I will STILL NEVER, NEVER EVER remarry as long as we both are living, for to do so would clearly be sin! I am not a perfect man and never have been. However, I can not knowingly move into sin just because someone else chooses to do something that hurts me or makes me unhappy. Part of the problem with our modern society is the unhealthy emphasis on "HAPPINESS". Happiness is not where it's at. It's the JOY OF THE LORD that we need! :) Joy and peace that surpasses all reason and understanding. I am not "happy" right now, but I do have"JOY"! PTL! You see, true JOY comes not from circumstances, but from knowing that you are in the will of God, and that you are in right standing with Him, and that He finds you faithful! That's JOY! And I've got it!! PTL! The issue here is not whether my sweet Kenisha returns or not...the issue is OBEDIENCE to God. This site is not here to try to get her to come back. Nor is it a way for me to grasp or hang on to her. It is simply a way for me to express and demonstrate a fraction of the way the God loves you, me, and all his people. And another thing....Epesians 5:25 says, "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church." If I walked away from Jesus Christ right now...what would He do? How would He treat me? Would He give up on me? Would he "pick up and move on"? Would He say, "millions of people get divorced"? Anyone who thinks Jesus would do any of these things does not know Jesus! He would never do any such thing. And if I am to "love my wife Kenisha as Jesus loves me", then I can NEVER give up on her. Even if I am on my death bed and she still has not come back to me. And no, that would not be a wasted life. That would be a life that has demonstrated the love of Jesus in action! And I would have been privileged to be used of God to show the world just a glimpse...a fraction, of what TRUE love...God's love is really like! PTL! John 3:16a For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son (to die on the cross for us)...If Jesus loved us enough to die for us...while we were yet sinners...and I am to love my wife as Christ loved the church, then what makes ANYONE think that I am wasting my time or missing out on something by being obedient to the word and the will of God? Only those who don't know and understand the love of God and his design for marriage could think such things. I am so glad that you emailed me. You have given me one more opportunity to express the love of God to a hurting and lost world. Thank you. You see, I have come to believe the word of God completely, without exception, because it is TRUE and LIVING, and contains all the wisdom we need to live godly lives. :) Yes, I do thank you for your email. :) There is so much more I could say on this topic, but it's 2:44am and have the privilege of waking up and going to church in the morning, so I'm going to quit here. But please feel free to email me with any additional comments or questions you may have. I would love the opportunity to share more of God's heart for marriage and His love for His church with you. |
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